Many people have failing relationships because they have not really fallen in love with each other, but they have fallen for the mental images they have created of one another. We assume we know our partner, we think about them nonstop, creating many different ideas of who they are, what they like, and how we will be together, then as soon as our partner does something that doesn’t fit with our mental image of them, we become sad, upset, confused, or heart broken. Our partner did not cause our suffering; we caused it, through our false perceptions and mental images.Joseph P. Kauffman
About This Quote
Your relationship with a person can be a roller coaster of ups and downs. Sometimes the person you are with is not going to be the same person you had in your head. That is normal, and it's natural for you to have different ideas about how things should be, but when the differences become too much, it can cause a lot of pain. In fact, some people might even think that your partner purposely does things to hurt you. If you have been in an unhappy relationship for a while, many of those ups and downs could have been caused by a mental image you had of them.
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